These are real symptoms that affect us physically. Because these are real symptoms that affect us physically and they seem to come on us unknowingly, we begin to think that these emotions or feelings are uncontrollable, but they are not.
If we have the right attitude toward anger, our reactions to negative situations will change. When we don’t get our way, instead of having a negative emotional outburst, we will simply catch ourselves and say, “Oh, I’m not getting my way here.” We defuse the anger because we recognize it for what it is: a strong emotional feeling that results in not getting our way.
So let’s examine what life would be like without ever getting angry. Some people would say that’s impossible. I disagree. I believe we can be frustrated without being angry. When we are frustrated, it simply means we recognize that there is something wrong with the situation. We realize we need to take action and develop a solution to solve whatever it is we recognized as being wrong. It’s ok to realize there is a problem, but it’s not ok to use anger to try and manipulate the circumstances or people around us.
When we learn to diffuse the anger, life becomes so much sweeter. The ultimate key to resolving anger is to commit to being servants of love. The definition of love I am talking about is an unconditional giving of ourselves to others while never demanding our own way. When walking in unconditional love, we will not be angry.