It’s our agenda that we are pressing, not theirs. We need to back off and be more supportive and willing to let our children fail. We also need to be more focused on their positive qualities. Whether you’re a parent or a child, you may have experienced some of this at one time or another. This is something quite common in many relationships.
So what happens when we take this type of thinking outside of the home into our everyday social environment? We go into the work place with our agendas. We start trying to flex our ideological muscles. We think, by telling everyone around us what they are doing wrong, we will get them to change. The truth of the matter is: if you want to see people change, you don’t do it by pressing your agenda on them. You do it by helping them create an agenda of their own.
You may not like the other person’s plan, but you have to remember they might not like yours either. Our agendas are only compatible with our own lives. When forced upon others, agendas destroy relationships and keep us from being supportive of one another.