Those emotions can be there because we don’t understand ourselves. God can help us come to a better understanding of ourselves if we let Him. But we need to find wisdom first. Where do we find the wisdom that can help us understand ourselves better?
In Psalms it says, “The mouth of the righteous utters wisdom, and his tongue speaks justice. The law of his God is in his heart” His steps do not slip” Ps 37:30-31 NASU).
God is willing to enlighten you through others when you are ready. Only you can decide to start the process.