Whenever I am struggling with something I try to take the time to think it through and ask myself if the negative feelings I am having are self-induced. This time when I was analyzing the situation the thoughts came to me that I don’t have to be the one. I get to be the one. As I thought about that for a while my first thought was I don’t want to get to be the one, I want someone else to be the one, and I was tired of always having to be the one.
But with a little more time thinking about the subject I began to realize that if I changed my attitude and began to say I get to be the one instead I have to be the one I would suddenly be viewing it in a positive way instead of a negative way. I liked that thought and began to realize that the reason I got to be the one was because I had been gifted with the ability to handle the very responsibilities that I was trying to avoid.
Many times in our relationships, let’s use marriage as an example, our mates fell in love with us because of the gifts and abilities they saw in us. But as time passes we start wanting them to have our gifts and abilities. We want to delegate those responsibilities to someone else. This comes from our lazy human nature; we want less responsibility, not more.
If our mates fell in love with us because of our gifts and abilities we should be thrilled to have been as fortunate as to have been given those gifts and abilities. We should be shouting from the roof tops “I get to be the one” instead of I have to be the one. When we do that it will actually strengthen our relationships. Those around us will know they can depend on us. Not only will they know they can depend on us, but they will also know that what they are depending on us doing, we will do without complaining.